If you’ve ever felt ashamed of your anxiety, self-doubt, or the way you shut down in stressful situations, I want you to take a deep breath for a moment. The things you struggle with now—the patterns you wish you could change—likely started as survival instincts. At some point in your life, they helped you get through something hard. And that means they make sense.

If you have an anxious attachment style, dating can feel like an emotional rollercoaster. One moment, you’re feeling hopeful and excited about a new connection, and the next, you’re overanalyzing a text message, wondering if you said something wrong. You might find yourself craving reassurance, worrying about how much someone likes you, or feeling intense emotional highs and lows depending on how a relationship is going.

For as long as you can remember, you’ve handled things on your own. You take care of yourself, your responsibilities, and maybe even the people around you. You don’t ask for help—not because you don’t need it, but because it doesn’t even feel like an option. Relying on others? That’s never really been part of the plan.

Trauma has a profound impact on the brain. It can leave individuals feeling stuck, emotionally overwhelmed, and disconnected from their sense of safety. However, a groundbreaking therapeutic approach known as Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is changing the way we understand trauma recovery. EMDR doesn’t just help individuals process difficult memories—it actually works to rewire the brain.